The Evolutionary Purpose of Shame
Precentors: Sheila Rubin, MA, LMFT, RDT/BCT; Brett Lyon, PhD
Presented by:
Sheila Rubin, MA, LMFT, RDT/BCT & Brett Lyon, PhD, SEP, BCC
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Abstract
We believe that unacknowledged shame leads to much conflict and violence in the world, both personal and political, and we are convinced that addressing shame directly and working to transform it will decrease hatred and misunderstandings and help the world be a more compassionate and just place. The idea of the evolutionary purpose of shame is different for each of us. Many feel stuck and may not know why. What if shame can be healthy? What if shame has the discernment we need to set boundaries and to grow? The research for shame is very personal and each student can learn their own internal shame map and have compassion to teach their clients to understand their own shame map.
In this workshop you will focus on using breathing and grounding to resource the client, become more aware of your own breathing and expand it in the process. Notice when the client goes into the shame posture. Learn how you can resource yourself so that you don't fall into somatic countertransference and take on the client's physical shame patterns. Learn to counter-shame the client. Use clues from somatic countertransference to identify the evolutionary purpose of shame. Explore how to keep your clients more present in the room with you and counter over-verbalization, dissociation, and freezing.
Bio
Sheila Rubin, MA, LMFT, RDT/BCT is a leading authority on Healing Shame. She co-created the Healing Shame–Lyon/Rubin Method and has delivered talks, presentations and workshops across the country and around the world, at conferences from Canada to Romania. Sheila has been presenting Healing Shame workshops with her husband, Bret Lyon, for over 10 years; she has been presenting workshops for therapists about working with shame, eating disorders, and child and family trauma for over 25 years.